Midlife

I’m 50, It took me forever to get here and I won’t apologize.

Many days I see different social media. It is pretty easy to find in many posts regarding mom, fashion and beauty, fitness, mental health, food and creative/author bloggers. I have to wade through negative political posts to find the ones relevant to me, a woman over fifty. I am struck by the fact that there is no easy way to find all the information I am looking for in one place and what is relevant to me.

Crazy if you search over 40 or 50 you find dating sites and weight loss at the top of the search engines. I know most of my friends are into far more than these type of searches. Really? Is this what society, the media and brands think that women over fifty are concerned with? If they do, they are entirely missing the mark. We are more than our kids or our jobs. There is a great song by Clay Walker “Fore Mama was Mama” https://youtu.be/nynh1r1oULk It really shows there is more to us.

We like to drink, we love to laugh and are sexy yet life has had us in different role for many years. Get us outside of our comfort zones and you will find the lost younger version of ourselves.

When I get together with my friends, our appearance is pretty far down the list in conversation. Maybe it shows to the outside world but we don’t care. We are more concerned with our grown up children making their way in the world, taking care of ourselves and navigating our futures and what keeps us happy. We like people but having them like us isn’t at the forefront of our concerns anymore. You get what you get. But if you take the time to challenge our senses you will find so much more.

How pit bulls and 50 year olds are alike
• Loyal if you earn their respect
• Treat them poorly and it will never be the same
• Tenacious in their endeavors
• Will be by your side forever if you treat them well
• Many have resting bitch face so their demeanor is a mystery
• Have a silly side
• Love to play hard and nap hard
• Love to hang with their peeps but don’t mind time alone
• You don’t have to constantly reassure them they look good or value them, they hold their own strength

Whether you are midlife are just at a turning point in your age group, what do you love moving forward in your life and what are you happy to leave behind?

9 Comments

  • Kim Nixon

    Great article…the pit comparison cracked me up!! I may borrow the idea and compare my Bengal. LOL

  • Jackie

    This hits home perfectly. Thank you for sharing TT. 😘🤗👏

  • Nadine Bye

    Very well written! What resonated to me was that we over 50 women care more about the well being of our family than appearances. Looking a particular way won’t benefit the next generation if all our , or most of our efforts are on that!

    • Teresa Hanish

      I don’t think that is entirely it, I just think it isn’t as crucial as when we went out in our twenties. I still like to look good but my persona doesn’t revolve around it the way it could back in the day of going out. I still like to be a girly girl too😀

  • Sheila

    Hi Teresa! I noticed your blog post link at the bottom of the email when you replied to me. This is great! I, too am a woman over 50 and a dog lover and we share many of the same sentiments. I enjoyed visiting here.

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